8 tips to make a long distance relationship work

As some of you may know, my fiancé lives miles and oceans away from me, but we’ve been happily together for more than 2 years now, so I hope these tips can help you out if you find yourself in the same situation.

1.Keep it alive and creative

Nowadays technology let’s us share with anyone in the world all sorts of things, so don’t be afraid to send pictures, short videos, audio clips, or even just a nice message. One thing is writing every day “goodnight”, another is doing that also saying how much they mean to you, or how much you love them. They will feel appreciated and loved, and your relationship will hardly get boring.

2.Don’t be paranoid

If you see you haven’t got a reply in hours from your partner, don’t blow their phone up or get all mad about it. Let them breathe, you are not supposed to talk 24/7, especially if you are in different time zones and have a busy life. You have to accept the fact that both of you have different schedules and lives, and often they won’t fit perfectly, so communicate, but don’t get possessive.

3.Stay positive

Keep yourself active and social, hang out with friends and family, and enjoy your time even if you are far from your partner. Don’t become that person who turns down invitations to stay at home waiting for that specific phone call. Learn to be happy alone, knowing that you will be happier together. Remember that you don’t need each other, you want each other, and that makes all the difference.

4.When you see each other, make the most out of it

If you live a few hours away you’ll probably get to see each other more often than someone who is oceans and countries away, either way, live every moment to the fullest and don’t waste a second. Smile, talk, laugh and do things together. Plan some fun activities, and also reserve some time for private moments, even being lazy at home is great as long as you are together.

5.Don’t small talk all the time

Don’t get me wrong, small talk is perfect, but you also want to share deeper thoughts and address serious topics. That helps you know each other better, and build a stronger connection.

6.Set some goals

“When will you be able to see each other again?”, “What do you want to achieve?”, “What about the future?”. Having an idea of how it’s gonna be years from now is important. Even the strongest couple can’t stay in a long distance relationship forever. So set some goals, do what you think it’s best for the both of you, and support each other. You might be apart, but if you’re working in the same direction towards a common goal, then you will achieve it.

7.Be patient

Of course you miss your partner and you cannot wait to be with them, but you have to accept the fact that you live in two different places and seeing each other can be difficult. Don’t let that bring you down, you are most likely still very young, and the time spent apart will all be worth it in the end. You’ll be in each others arms sooner than you think.

8.Trust each other

This is probably the most important thing when you are in a long distance relationship. Your partner loves you so much that their willing to put up with the distance, so be honest and don’t keep problems all to yourself. If you feel like giving up, or there is something that bothers you, make it clear and talk to them right away before it’s too late. They will certainly listen to you and give you all the support you need.


Author: Marta Nepi

Vegan | Italy

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